We Scottie Moms have to be quick on our feet. You just never know what our Scottish Terriers might come up with to surprise us, teach us something new and make us better Scottie Moms. The learning curve never seems to end. And as someone who had not previously owned a dog of my own before, my Scottie Mom learning curve skyrocketed the minute Mr. K entered my life.
A few weeks ago, I received an email from a fellow Scottie Mom who wanted to know if all the adventures and Scottie life lessons come from my own experiences or if I write based on what others write me about. Truth be told, everything up until this point has been based on something Heather or Mr. K has done, has gone through or has inspired. The thought of opening up a "Scottie Mom forum" so-to-speak, had not entered my mind until this fellow Scottie Mom asked me:
I am curious about Fiona and Winston's behavior, whether they love to be around me or are scared to lose me due to their past. I was wondering if you could ask other Scottie parents about their experiences. Winston was always an indicator where I was. My ex would look for Winston to know which room I was in...Now that my ex is out of the picture, [Winston] only needs to be in the same house. Fiona, on the other hand, would sleep on the couch - never in my room. She would also go to the bedroom if I were in the living room. Now, she is my little shadow but not to extremes. She'll be in the living room if I am in the kitchen, craft room if I am there and only needs to be at my door while I am bathing, never underfoot. So, is this typical Scottie behavior or rescued love?
I think the best way to approach this is to recognize that every Scottie is different and with rescue Scotties like Winston and Fiona, it is impossible to know what they have been through before finding themselves happily in your home. That being said, Scotties are also independent creatures. Take Heather, for example: she prefers sleeping in corners of rooms away from everyone but not so far that she can't see everyone. I think that's her way of keeping her independence while looking out for those she loves. On the contrary, I was told after boarding them for the first time that Heather wouldn't let Mr. K out of her sight for an instant - that part, I'm afraid, was more reassurance for herself that I hadn't abandoned her rather than concern for Mr. K.
In the past, Mr. K's behavior has been similar to Winston's when it comse to ex-boyfriends. Some, he'd never let get too close and others, he'd roll right over for a belly rub. He also would lead Scottie Dad to me when I wasn't well and, at other times, was quick to warn those (Scottie Dad included) he didn't yet trust not to mess with his Scottie Mom...or else. That being said, I am a true believer in an animal's instinct - especially a Scottie dog's. If the Scottie doesn't like the person you are with (friend or otherwise), take that as a cue.
At some point or another, both Heather and Mr. K have acted as my shadow - or at least, it appears that way. It can be hard to tell which of us is following the other in our 850-square-foot apartment! When it was just Mr. K and me, there definitely was some separation anxiety...especially after I lost my job and was at home with him for nearly four months straight. I often made random trips to the grocery store and such just to give him some alone time so he wouldn't become completely dependent on my presence. To this day, though, if Mr. K was given a choice, his preference would be to be by my side...and, truth be told, that would be my choice as well!
So, all in all, I would weigh in saying that Winston and Fiona are exerting typical Scottie behavior - however, this opinion is limited to my experiences with Heather and Mr. K. With that in mind, I'd like to offer up the opportunity for other Scottie Moms and Dads to weigh in on the topic below so we can keep the Scottie Mom (and Dad!) learning curve going. Much love, The Scottie Mom.